Psychological well being does not depend if one gets what one wants, the objects of our obsessions, but if desire is observed intelligently, without any reaction, in UP.
Without the essential function of UP, desire and accompanying fear, turn into a psychological structure of torture. 'Myself' is that. It's a superproduct of thought run by desire, anger and fear, unperceived when it semi-automatically acts (in the 'shadow').
Some one who doesn't learn UP, will not find a solution for UP is THE solution.